The past the present and the future

The Past-I was once a confident, accomplished woman who didnt need a man . Tragedy struck 4 year ago and i lost the relationship i had been building for the past 10 years. 

The present -Currently trying to traverse dating. its been so long i dont remember the rules. Do those rules even fit todays society. Do those rules still fit who i am as a person. Who am i today and what function does a relationship even fulfill in my life. Maybe i have too many questions to be answered in order for me to establish a new relationship. 

The Future- UNKNOWN- only god knows. 

The prayer for the present- Please clarify what a relationship would provide for me and help me establish new rules to fit the person i am today.